Self Care For New Mum Aches & Pains

Self Care For New Mum Aches & Pains

OK, so we know that those early weeks of baby arriving are wonderful, but they don’t half wreck havoc on your back, neck and shoulders.

Carrying baby around and feeding baby – bottle or breast makes us sit slightly hunched over for extended periods of time. And the weight of hormonal boobs can be a complete shocker!   Having large breasts ourselves anyway – we experienced back pain just from the sheer size of those bad boys!!

Please take a minute to study the illustration of how to carry out this a “back-saving” stretch for all mums (and dads actually).  We found that it really helps with early tension, but is also handy all the way through parenting.  Regularly carrying out these stretches will help with the strain of carrying/lifting and bending with babies and toddlers – it also helps with the ‘shoulders up round your ears’ reaction to toddler tantrums and teenage sass!

It’s a good all rounder whatever stage you are at! Try and tack it on to a routine you already have, like brushing your teeth or making your morning cuppa! Leave a post it note by the kettle or toothbrush that says ‘stretch’ to jog your memory! Illustration by the awesome @kaybarkerillustrations

Stay Calm Help for New Parents

Stay Calm Help for New Parents

This tip was taught to us by a psychotherapist we worked with years ago and is a fab coping technique for any new mamma with a baby that’s prone to having a good old scream up!
Babies cry for many, many reasons and whilst we want to hold and reassure them whilst they are crying, sometimes the sheer volume can make our blood pressure soar and rattle our brains. Such loud noises can leave us feeling very frazzled and anxious. As if this wasn’t bad enough, new mums hormones are such that we are on near-constant, “red alert” during those early postnatal months. Our sensory input is so acute that a crying baby will often sound much louder to a new mum than it would to a non-hormonal postnatal bystander (which explains why partners can often seem much calmer when trying to settle baby).
The answer… minimise the noise by wearing ear plugs! Sounds crazy at first, but try it, it really works. Pop the ear plugs in and you can still rock, cuddle and walk around with baby, tending to little one and holding them until they settle, but without the same volume of noise. Using earplugs reduces the volume going in and the stress reaction this causes, helping you stay calmer – which will in turn help baby to settle quicker! Simple, but SO effective.
Let us know how you get on with it!
The Little Book of Self Care for New Mums – Three Month Anniversary

The Little Book of Self Care for New Mums – Three Month Anniversary

Wow, doesn’t time fly?

We just can’t believe it’s already been three months since we published our book “The Little Book of Self Care for New Mums”.

Here at the Mother Box, life since the book launch has been completely surreal – we’ve been lucky enough to be invited to talk at all sorts of book launch events and have loved being able to talk about and actually see our new baby being sold in bookshops (in all its “Kay Barker illustrated” glory!!).

One of the things we’re SO thankful for is that the support and reviews from all you amazing mammas has been so positive. We’ve been lucky enough to become an Amazon best-seller and listed at Oli B’s which means more and more mums will see our book and hopefully more independents will choose to stock us.

Thanks to anyone who has bought or read our book and an especially big thank you to those that have posted positive reviews – it really makes a difference helping us get the word out there!

Here’s just a small selection of what’s been written so far;

Frasers Fun House

Books and Lovely Things

Pale Girl Rambling

Reinventing Neesha

The Beautiful Bluebird

Hannah’s Life Diaries

My Baba


And here are some of places where you can find our lovely book!





SheerLuxe – Book Launch Interview

SheerLuxe – Book Launch Interview

Being first-time authors, we knew there would be a certain amount of promotional work required to get our book out there, but we had no idea that would mean promoting the “Little Book of Self Care for New Mums” with huge YouTube influencers!

The good news was that Georgie from SheerLuxe had both read and liked the book (#win!) and she was so kind to us in our interview.

We don’t normally “love” being in front of the camera, but we actually really loved this experience!

How do you think we did? Check out the links below and let us know what you think…

SheerLuxe Interview with Beccy & Alexis

SheerLuxe Show: Parenting Special

Importance of Rest for New Parents

Importance of Rest for New Parents

Today’s #motherboxtotiptuesday is all about getting some more sleep when you really need it! We all know that having a baby means having less sleep, napping when we can and generally functioning daily a little tired, but what can we do when we hit a wall and we really need to sleep!? We are fans of having a couple of scheduled evenings a week where couples ‘tag team sleep’ – this allows both parents to have some undisturbed time out and it really can sort you out!

If you are breast feeding express some milk in the day and when your partner gets home from work hand baby over and go and have a nice soak and get straight into bed! (If you are on your knees, skip the soak and go straight for the face plant in bed) This is your off duty time, to sleep without your ears on stalks knowing that if baby wakes, your partner is on duty and you can sleep through it! When your partner goes to bed (we suggest around 11.30/12) they can bring baby up and pop baby by you, hopefully still asleep!

They can then sleep in the spare room or on the sofa for their off duty time! You then feed baby when they wake for their next feed, and hopefully after that you will both sleep until the morning. If you have a wakeful baby, you can swap over with your partner again in the night!

This allows you both to have a few chunks of uninterrupted deep sleep, which is the sleep that will help you to feel better and more rested! Bring off duty can also give the mind a break, which helps with anxiety and depression. When we both did tag team sleeping it went something like this.

Me: bed at 7.30 – usually out cold immediately!

Partner:feed baby at 11.00 and then settle baby next to me (I usually slept through this)

Partner- go to sleep in spare room.

Me:get woken up to feed baby at 2.30 ish and again around 6am

Partner- who had slept from 12-6 would then bring me breakfast in bed!

Everyone is getting some kip and feeling better!

Definitely worth a try!

New Mum Advice on the First Postnatal Poop

New Mum Advice on the First Postnatal Poop

Let’s talk about that all important and sometimes nerve wracking postnatal poo! We all have to do it! And most of us dread it, even if you haven’t had an episiotomy or tear it can still feel a bit tender and inflamed and lots of women fear putting any pressure down there for a little while. The thing is, postnatal constipation is very uncomfortable, so don’t hold it in! And the truth is, it’s never as bad as you think it will be!

Here are some tips to help.

1/ don’t rush! Allow yourself time and space to use the bathroom uninterrupted. If you try to rush you’ll strain and if you strain it’ll be sore. Allow yourself time to sit and let yourself relax, relaxed muscles let go better!

2/ keep your mouth and jaw relaxed. There is a neurological link up between your mouth and your sphincter muscles, if you are tight in your jaw, you’ll be tight in your sphincter muscles. Wiggle that jaw and relax your lips!

3/ sometimes supporting the perineum can help you to mentally relax the bottom. Use a clean wash cloth or maternity pad and hold it against the perineum, you will most likely feel the bottom and bowel relax immediately.

4/ using a foot stall and putting your feet flat up on it while you are on the loo so that your knees are higher than your hips is a better position for pooing, this mimics the squatting position and can help if you are constipated.

5/ if your bottom is sore or you have haemorrhoids, you can make a cooling pad using chamomile tea and a sanitary pad. Steep the tea for 20 mins, pour over some maternity pads and pop them in the fridge for a few hours to cool. After doing a poo or if haemorrhoids are sore, take a pad out of the fridge and sit on it for a soothing, cooling relief.

6/ remember to stay hydrated, you need to drink lots of water in the post natal period, this will help to stop constipation.

Better out than in we say!